Friday, February 20, 2015

The past is now my present...

There are a few things that happened in my life that didn't make it to the last post. The divorce from hell lasted 2 years and 3 days. And to date, we haven't seen each other since our last mediation appointment 4 years ago. Which in all honesty makes my life and healing process that much easier.Not long after that miraculous March day when the judge granted the divorce, tragedy struck my family. Growing up I never knew my maternal grandmother because she passed several years before I was born. However, I did have the pleasure of meeting and growing up with several of her siblings. Some I saw only a hand full of times, others practically raised me. One in particular, my aunt Consuelo, was the one who was around the longest.

On her birthday, which was in mid-September, we were all preparing ourselves for the worst. She was on her death bed. It was only a matter of hours before she passed away. That Thursday before her birthday was a rough day. We were all running on little to no sleep and I had to be at work at 8am Friday morning. I was running on fumes when i arrived at work that Friday and pushing back on the sadness and loss that I  knew was coming. It started off  as a regular Friday, I internally was extremely sad but externally there was no telling. I looked exhausted, which was an understatement. I was working at a mid-rise condo building in Midtown Miami. Fridays were usually the days the exterminator would come and service the units. Since the maintenance personnel were occupied that day, I was tasked (which was becoming a routine) with escorting the exterminator around the building..

We began our usual banter as we made our way up the building floor by floor. About an hour into it, he receives a phone call from his closest cousin/co-worker. They agree to meet at my building before heading to lunch. At this point in my life I was tired of the dating scene and was content with the notion that I was bound to be a spinster. I was in my late 20's and 30 was coming around the corner. His cousin arrives at the exact moment I managed to get a key stuck in an apartment door. As I look up to introduce myself to him, I froze. There was something about the man standing in front of me that was electrifying, an attraction, I at the moment, couldn't comprehend. It was as if I had been struck by lighting. I'm not one who believes in love at first sight, but honestly there was something there. In my opinion, he was gorgeous; 6'4", piercing green eyes and a beard that was hotter than hell. I had to turn away from basically drooling on myself in front of him.

Thankful we were almost done, I became increasingly nervous. I began to stutter as I spoke and my hand were trembling. What this man was doing to me was unfathomable. My family was coming apart and at the point in my life were I was the saddest, and out of thin air appears this man who brighten my whole day. The exterminator and I finished the units on the list for that day and said our goodbyes.

Now for those who don't believe in fate, she has a funny way of working out. The exterminator and I had become friends during our many months of working together and on that particular Friday I forget to give him something as simple as a CD of DJ mixes we were discussing prior to the cousins arrival. In a rush to not have them leave the area I called and arranged to meet up within minutes of their and give the exterminator the CD. Upon my arrival we (my boss at the time) were invited to lunch.I was more than excited to see this mystery man again. Lunch went by with the cousin and I catching each others stare.

After 2 weeks of flirting, we agree to meet for drinks. What I thought was going to be a nice few hours turned into an all night experience. Needless to say we've been together ever since that rainy October night. These last 2 and a half years have been been a whirlwind. I honestly never knew what love was until I met and fell for Roy. He's the light at the end of the darkest tunnel of my life. We talk like best friends, argue like husband and wife, protect each other siblings. The greatest gift I received on the darkest day of my life was him.


Jackie :)


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